Most people find that the hardest thing in getting over addiction is not actually quitting the drugs and alcohol.
Living alcohol and drug-free is. One of the many reasons for this is the fact that now you have to deal with the pain you have been running away from. This pain may come in various forms such as a past trauma or having to live with a condition that has made you feel unwanted. However hard these situations are under normal circumstances, they are even more difficult if a person is in recovery from substance abuse as well. You may only know how to use drugs to deal with your emotional issues once you've become addicted to the habit no matter why you started using and traumatic issues may be even harder to deal with in such a case. You may not recognize that you have any other coping strategies, self-care techniques, problem-solving skills, or other processes of dealing with problems that are buried underneath the drug haze and drinking.
You may be flooded with an avalanche of painful emotions if you stop using alcohol or drugs, particularly after the long history of substance abuse. This can appear significantly overwhelming for you, (and your loved ones) especially if you don't know what to do or what is happening, weren't prepared for it, or you think that sobriety is always like this. Despite the best of intentions no wonder so many people run back to the drugs or bottle. Seeking help is for the best if you too have experienced some of these things. Try to discover ways to slow down the release of pent up emotions if you want to feel the pace in a more manageable way or not as overwhelming.
After withdrawal, many sink into a profound depression. The alcohol and drugs may have propped you up when using the substance but a crash will inevitably follow when you make an attempt to give up.
It doesn't only appear to be overwhelming but discouraging too since you probably desired that life would get better. You should however not see this as the end of things. The situation will get better.
It is important to find a reason to be hopeful at this point since you're only starting to process the information you're receiving. Hearing from others who have gone through a similar thing and managed to come out victorious can help. You will want to understand what you can expect and the things you can look forward to even if they are not right, for the moment, but will be right in the near future. Remember that only a few of the possible benefits are increased self-love, self-respect, and self-confidence, and that other doors can be opened for you with the help of those things.
Since people recovering from addiction to drug and alcohol abuse are unique individuals who will not all respond to the same therapeutic methods, there are a number of techniques that may help.
Most people will benefit more in the beginning from an approach to coping that is in tune with what they actually face.
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During the procedure of a recovery honesty will be an essential element, and you can encourage honesty by adopting a realistic approach. That means avoiding things that sound great and sticking to things that you know you can accomplish. Don't give yourself a chance to fail, but you can try to achieve a bit more. You may find yourself lying or feeling ashamed by not attaining certain goals which is why setting objectives that can't be met is a bad idea. Being realistic will mean that you make a beginning gradually by reducing your alcohol and drug use even as you continue working on some of your issues before quitting. Or, that you simply quit. The right road to go is the one that suits you the most.
To remain clear of drug or alcohol you might do a more extensive healing job or do a longer term.
This might mean dealing with emotional, sexual, physical or ritual abuse; growing up in an alcoholic or otherwise dysfunctional family; experiencing a significant loss, chronic illness or death; being abandoned as a child; feeling ashamed or confused about your sexual identity, etc. For many, this might also mean dealing with an abusive or missing partner or any other current living condition.
It might be necessary to receive expert help from a psychotherapist (alone or in a group) since dealing with these problems is very hard. Many have to do this comprehensive work in order to stay sober, while others don't. Many people find that their reason of abusing alcohol or drugs in the first place is intimately connected to the deeper issues. The need to use the drugs or the alcohol can be reduced by addressing these issues.
Facing these hurtful problems will commonly be painful before it starts getting better, just like with overcoming substance abuse. Initially it could look and feel as if things are becoming worse but long term benefits like finding greater satisfaction in life, freedom, enjoying a fuller life, and happiness are worth the effort it takes.
It is rather tempting to make the comment that there is only one way to get off alcohol and drugs. Many have the desire to believe that there is a solution that can help anyone or a firm answer for all. However, life and people are rarely that simple. I have looked at many people using different methods that worked for them to overcome substance abuse (and others that significantly decreased their intake). Look to yourself to find the solution that will work best for you. If something feels right there is no harm in trying it out. It could be your initial step to an addiction free life.